Just a quick note to anyone still subscribing to this blog or checking it every so often.
We’ve pretty much made the transition to InterraceToday.com and would love it if more people would visit and get involved and let us know what you think of the transition. We are the only online magazine of its kind, to feature interracial dating questions and answers, a store selling our original interracial greeting cards, news updated daily, interviews, movie reviews, a robust resources section and more.
But we need your help to get the word out there to multicultural families and interracial couples. As our numbers increase so does the need to communicate.
Please visit InterraceToday.com and let us know what you think and get involved so we can make it the best website in the world for interracial couples and multicultural families.
Image via Wikipedia. Wouldn't it be great if this is what people did before they spoke?
From the (I’m assuming) good folks at PsychCentral, there’s a recent post by psychologist and family counselor Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker addressing a concerned teenager in an interracial relationship, and surprise surprise, saddled with disapproving parents.
While I can’t disagree with Dr. Hartwell-Walker’s measured and logical response, I kind of wish she’d told the young teenage eighth grader to tell her parents that she’d date whomever she liked and would theretofore establish her own independence as a young woman.
But I guess that might be why I’m not a therapist like Dr. Hartwell-Walker.
I was surprised recently rummaging through the topic of television’s first interracial kiss on YouTube.com, when I cam across two videos answering this question.
I’d thought that like “the shat,” that that first symbolic romantic lip-lock would’ve come much earlier than it did…but I guess I wasn’t all surprised that the man who would “do” the proverbial “deed” would be none other than the same man who would later jump (literally) on top of a green-skinned woman.
One video gives you the male perspective, and the other is the woman’s perspective on the taboo-shattering event.
It should be pretty obvious that the man was now-75+ William Shatner and the woman was/is Nichelle Nichols. It’s somewhat interesting that to “shat,” the event was no big deal and to Nichols it was much more stressful apparently. Maybe that had to do with Shatner being the “Captain” of the ship so to speak.
On the matter of Ellen…I want to like her. I really do. I just don’t get her. Would she be as successful if she were not blonde and blue-eyed? A blonde-haired, blue-eyed woman who dances and tells bad jokes. Fine. I just wish she were a little bit more funny and more cutting-edge like Margaret Cho, Aisha Tyler, or so many others. But maybe that middle of the road approach is what’s working for her. Ho-hum.
The sitcom is supposed to be about a Jewish–Chinese couple and their home life and relationships. Obviously, Ms. Cho ought to be involved in this one at least in some capacity, but not likely since Ellen’s already has it.
But I’ll take an interracial sitcom that has the potential to be good over another bland-as-beige one any time.
Here’s the link to the article if you’d like to learn more about the upcoming interracial family sitcom:
Maybe white men could never “satisfy” black women one blogger postulates, or would all “white boys” be nerdy goofballs asked another woman, or could they turn out to be stalkers asked comedienne Sommore (in at least one of her concert films and the rom-com “Something New“), or could white guys not be “tough”enough to protect you asked yet another.
Cover of Something New (Widescreen Edition). Uh-oh...what will her girlfriends think?
Now, obviously, on the matter of interracial dating, we’re definitely for it, but it ultimately comes down to an issue of emotional maturity.
How much of your “free will” is determined by over-bearing parents, society, religious organizations or institutions, peer pressure, or fear of the new and different? To what extent do you as an individual want to be in a mutually-loving relationship and how does that weigh against being approved of by others?
If a man (or woman) doesn’t want to commit or take you seriously or won’t pay bills or cheats, it won’t matter whether they’re a taste of cocoa or some smooth vanilla creme. It’s time to motor.
And if you’re open to diversity, than you have a wider selection to choose from, a larger dating pool, and mathematically a greater chance at finding the type of person who will clip your toenails, make breakfast for both of you, and make you happy in other ways.
So, at any rate, it was difficult for me not to feel at least a tad better (after wading through all that internet dross material), when I came upon this article on (at least some) legitimate reasons for black women to be more open-minded when considering whether or not to date white men (yes, men).
The ABC television program, “What Would You Do?” brought up the potentially inflammatory issues of interracial adoption on a past program (which I think is a component of ABC’s “Dateline” or “Nightline” programs), and the reactions of members of the general public are interesting-largely due to their supportive nature.
Here is part one, from YouTube, followed by part two, and then the third video is of a family that actually had to endure the reactions of racists and ignorant folks uncomfortable seeing bi-racial families.
What are your takes on the reactions of the public? Have you had similar experiences, worse, or better? Your shared experiences may help others grow.
Anyway, here’s the link/video to part one, then part two, and then the third one based on a “real” bi-racial family:
Image via Wikipedia. Hey, he DOES have a good voice.
Well, well, well, Askmen.com has an interesting little article on interracial dating, featuring a kind of creepy photography of Heidi Klum recoiling from Seal as he tries to kiss her.
Anyway, the article written by Dr. Wendy Walsh, proposes that a woman’s “special monthly” cycle (that men cannot fathom) influences how she is attracted (or not) to men outside of her “racial” boundary lines.
I guess that means in lay terms, that if a woman is in a particularly foaming-at-the-mouth, I’d-like-to-punch-your-face-through-the-other-side-of-your-head moment, she may feel like dealing with male harassment? Or adhering (or breaking from) socially-acceptable norms?
Your humble El Jefe has his own views on the matter, but far be it for moi to try to influence your emotional and spiritual peregrinations, friends. Read the piece and let me know if it makes sense to you.
Image via Wikipedia. Interracial marriage seems to have worked pretty well for these two cool cats.
Here’s a link to an interesting piece by Kyle A. Hill, dated June 1, 2011, that appeared in the Kaleazy website, which is a “multidisciplinary design firm,” regarding, guess what, which ethnic groups are supposedly most accepting of interracial marriages.
What’s the gist of this article? How accurate (or inaccurate) is it? Does it make any broad, sweeping generalizations?
Whenever I read the term “marrying out,” it always makes me think of ordering out. I guess if you can’t get what you’d normally get at home, you have to pick up the cell and “marry out.”
How much of societal stress and pressure over interracial dating and marriage is about finding what society accepts as norm and how much of this is about finding a loving partner, regardless of race or ethnicity?
Let us know your thoughts.
Here’s a link to this brief piece from the website HispanicOhio.com, by Jeffrey Passel, Wendy Wang, and Paul Taylor:
Interrace Today.com is the new home of Interrace Magazine and remains the internet's only website for interracial and multicultural news, resources, help and support resources, interracial and multicultural shopping, classifieds, business listings and much more.